Salutary
Texts
Videos
Quotes
Poems
Small signposts
1
Practice self-love
"Hm you know, it seems to me that you are not kind enough to yourself. You are not following your true nature and instead arguing with yourself. Maybe it would be good if you hugged yourself tightly."
"Excuse me? Hugging myself? You want to kid me?"
Shushu, the caterpillar, laughed out loud: "My dear, I'll keep that safe - otherwise I would be flat. No, I'm very serious. Close your eyes and imagine that you are doubling up and being your best friend, who takes you tightly in his arms and really understands you! "
Bao looked a little incredulous, sighed, and finally did what Shushu had advised him to do. After a while he noticed tears welling up in his eyes. But they weren't bitter but sweet tears that only flow when you experience something very beautiful ...
from "Bao and the Secret of Serenity" (Aljoscha Long)
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You must enter a relationship
with yourself
before anyone else
(Rupi Kaur)
2
The right attitude
You shouldn't "think positively" but learn to be mercilessly creative and opportunistic.
Not: that's not so bad after all.
Rather: I can turn it around for the better.
from "Your obstacle is your way" (Ryan Holiday)
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Some people
are so bitter
to them
you must be kindest
(Rupe Kaur)
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Beliefs are the glasses
through which we see reality.
3
Addiction: You and the beast
This is how you learn to distinguish the addiction from yourself and see how you are manipulated.
4
Dare to be you
If you are a tulip, don't try to be a rose. Go find a tulip garden. All of my clients are tulips and they are trying to be roses. It doesn't work. They drive themselves crazy trying. I recognize that some people don't have the skills to plant the garden they need. But everybody can learn how to garden.
From "Building a life worth living" by Marsha Linehand (affected by Borderline, founder of the DBT)
4
Live and die
With suicidal clients, I would generally start by asking if they believed that they would be happier if dead. They seemed to think that their suffering would end if they killed themselves. I'd point out that there were no data provingg that was true. There are religoins that believe if you kill yourself you will go to hell, and others that believe you will have to live your whole life all over again. That could keep me from doing it.
From "Building a life worth living" by Marsha Linehand (affected by Borderline, founder of the DBT)
5
Control your impulses
These are the STOP skills:
Stop the urge to act immediately.
Take a step back and teach from the situation
Oberse, so you can gather information on what is happening.
Proceed mindfully, by evaluationg the most effective option to take, given the goals, and finally follow that option.
From "Building a life worth living" by Marsha Linehand (affected by Borderline, founder of the DBT)
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In a society that profits from your self doubt,
liking yourself is a rebellious act.
(unknown)
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I like the way the stretch marks
on my thighs look human
and that we're soft yet
rough and jungle wild
when we need to be
i love that about us
how capable we are of feeling
how unafraid we are of breaking
and tend to our wounds with grace
just being a woman
calling myself
a woman
makes me uttlery whole
and complete
(Rupi Kaur)
6
Find your purpose
You cannot become the best version of yourself if you can't spend time alone with yourself and love it.
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Once you overcome your addictions (drugs, food, shopping, sex, masturbation, internet, nicotine, alcohol, etc ...) you are on your ultimate path. The path you were in front to be on.
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Lose yourself. Find yourself. Find others.
( all three of unknown)
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Follow all your good feelings, all the things that made you stronger, all the moments that gave you courage - then you will find the source.
from "Bao and the Secret of Serenity" (Aljoscha Long)
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if the hurt comes
so will happiness
-be patient
(Rupi Kaur)
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“And so there must be in life something like a catastrophic turning point, when the world as we know ceases to exist. A moment that transform us into a different person from one heartbeat to the next. "
From "Hearts of Hearts" by Jan-Philipp Sendker
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A year from now you will wish
you had started today.
From "May you be happy" (Laura Malina Seiler)
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Love it,
leave it
or change it
(unknown)
7
Your greatest weakness is your greatest strength
In our vulnerability lies our greatest strength. It takes courage to accept our weaknesses and transform them into our strengths.
(Brene Brown)
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A weakness is just a weakness until you accept it. Then it can become your greatest strength.
(Unknown)
8
Stand by you
I had to leave
i was tired of
allowing you to
make me feel
anything less
than whole
(Rupi Kaur)
9
love
“I have often wondered what was the source of her beauty, her radiance. It's not the size of one's nose, the color of one's skin, the shape of one's lips or eyes that make one beautiful or ugly. So what is it? Can you, as a woman, tell me?
I shook my head.
I will tell you: It's love. Love makes us beautiful. Do you know a single person who loves and is loved, who is loved unconditionally and who, at the same time, is ugly? There's no need to ponder the question. There is no such person. "
- Jan-Philipp Sendker, The Art of Hearing Heartbeats crazy trying. I recognize that some people don't have the skills to plant the garden they need. But everybody can learn how to garden.